Beating a Dead Horse

Okay, since I really want to get all the info down, I wanted to go over my most recent relationship, if you can call it that. GES was actually one of the first men I corresponded with through eHarmony. I started with eHarmoney sometime in March. AT first, as with probably all dating sites, you get a lot of matches. I wrote back and forth with a few and then they slowly whittled down to GES and another guy (Tony). Both are from Richmond.

GES is very funny, with a dry, sometimes sarcastic, sense of humor. After a couple of weeks of e-mails we graduated to phone calls. Both were fun and something I looked forward to. My DD and I were scheduled for a cruise during her Spring Break in April. GES decided he couldn't wait and wanted to see me ASAP. Uhm, OK, says I. We meet the Tuesday before my trip. He drives up to DC from Richmond just for lunch ((which, let's face it, really impresses a girl). I tell him where the restaurant is and meet him there. He has brought a vase of white roses (awhhh!). He's cute, with dreds. Funny thing is, he has a slight lisp that was not detectable on the phone. He tells me how pretty I am (whateva!) and tells me he is going to pursue me. He continues this statement everytime there is a lull. Uhmmm, OK, says I (again, never at a loss for sparkling conversation!). Lunch was lovely and we part.

He calls me up until the time DD and I leave. Upon our return a week later, GES calls again. He wants to see me because he misses me. Uhmmm, OK, says I (I really need to get better comebacks). So, we arrange to meet at the National Arboretum, which is a nice and unusual place for a date. We enjoy walking around and each others company.

The following Thursday, DD's school has an overnight camping trip. I happen to mention this to GES and he is all over this. Of course, during all of his pursuit, I have also made plans with Tony. He has planned to drive up from Richmond and overnight (in a hotel...I'm not THAT easy) on that Thursday so we can go out to dinner. The problem with Tony? I can't see his face on his profile picture. I repeatedly ask him for a better picture, but he always puts me off (cue air raid sirens). Eventually, he sends me an e-mail with a picture attachment. It's actually a cartoon picture of Obama. Can we spell annoying, girls and boys?

So, back to GES. He asks if he can come up Thursday night and stay over. Against the intelligent side of my brain, I say (you guessed it) Uhmmm, OK. I cancel Thursday with Tony and up comes GES. He wants to sleep with me, but nothing further. So, we do fall asleep, but he wakes me up and we get pretty close. But, we both break it off.

Anyway, we seem to be headed to something serious, with phone calls several times a day and constant texting and e-mailing. He begins to ask my opinion on his business. He begins to come up on the weekends and I introduce him to my DD. She falls madly in love. When he visits, he does lots of stuff around the house. GES invites me to go to Atlantic City with a bunch of his friends (one is a high roller and she got all of these rooms comp). We have a great time hanging out with his friends for the weekend. All good signs. And then...

Screech!!! Put the emergency brakes on! Full stop, Scotty! GES decides to focus on building his business more. I can't blame him, but why the great build up, just for the let down? He still calls several times a day. Still texts several times a day, but that's about it. Summer comes, summer is almost gone and he's still very focused on his business.

At some point during the summer he apologizes and tells me I should start dating again. He doesn't want to know about it and wants me to keep him on the back burner and not to forget him. OK, so back to eHarmony I go. Unfortunaely, not much of interest there. So, I try Match and things are working out better there (well, except for Mr. I'm really 62 and I smell like urine - Ha!).

In my mind, GES got the full boot when he missed my birthday - no card, no flowers, no present. When he finally called in the late afternoon, his mind was somewhere else. I told him to call me back when he could focus on yours truly. I had a little get together that following weekend (steamed lobsters, my fav!) where he was supposed to come. No show (although, he claims, his brother and nephew were in an accident. I try to believe because I just can't believe anyone would come up with such a horrible lie). We continued to talk but my interest and heart weren't in it. I invited him to our Labor Day party and he accepted. I really think its just an auto-pilot thing. I haven't spoken to him in a couple of weeks, but he just e-mailed me about the party (asking if he was still invited). I e-mailed "Too scared to call???" He answered yep but he thinks of me very very often. Told him that doesn't give me the warm fuzzies. Pathetic!

Moving on!

Two dates this week - one for lunch today and another park and dinner date tomorrow. More about those later.

Ciao!
Miss A